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An Update on the Reluctant Move
Jan. 30th, 2014 10:25 amOkay, things are sort of moving, if not exactly apace since my reluctance remains fairly high.
Anyroadup, have sorted out that I can commute at least for a while, via bus. There was a bit of a problem initially because the first bus from Ripon doesn't get to York until 9.30 - obviously a bit late for work. But I've spoken to the big boss and he's fine with me starting then and just working through my lunch, so that's okay. The last bus back to Ripon goes at 5.40 - 10 minutes after we finish for the day - so a certain amount of belting about will occur, at least Monday - Thursday. As I am also the current office cleaner (a bit of extra pocket money to help pay for the bus) I'll stay back and do that on Friday night, so the belting about won't be quite so extreme.
Have spoken to Richard who works here and he's willing to help me move the stuff for beer money. Have also spoken to Smelly Jeremy who also works here and he'll help as well, plus his mate Hippy Steve has a van so hopefully that'll work. I only have to pay them all beer money plus Hippy Steve's petrol, so jolly good there. Have spoken to my friend Sylvia who has in turn spoken to her friend Alan who has agreed to take a lot of stuff to the tip for me, so all the ducks are slowly lining up.
The idea is that I'll start looking for somewhere beginning of March with a view to actually moving in at the start of April. As ever, it'll be an overlap which means that I'll end up paying a month's extra rent, but there's nothing I can do about that. I'd rather do that anyway and have the comfort of a cushion, as it were.
I've told mum that I'm going to be very picky about what I end up with, and I refuse to be rushed into it. If I get this wrong and I end up with awful neighbours then we all know how that can send me squiffy, and she totally appreciates that. In an ideal world I'd like a little 1 bed cottage or a house, and for what I pay in York I can just about afford one in Ripon. It's just a question of waiting for the right thing to come up.
I've also been to the benefits office in Harrogate and spoken to a very nice chap and checked what's going to happen if, when I move to Ripon, I end up getting a part time job so that I can spend more time with mum, so I know where I am with that as well. After all, if the point of this is that she wants me more on hand, then me working full time in York doesn't really provide that, does it? On the other hand I'm not rushing into that either. We've just been given our first pay rise in 5 years, plus a bit of an end of year bonus, and as I say, I do the cleaning once a week here, all of which add up. Plus, without being TOO big headed, I'm bloody good at this job and I'm valued, which is a nice thing. So that's another thing that needs to be thought out. This is possibly the biggest move I've ever actually made, as this time I'm having to be aware that mum wants it and want me closer, but at the same time I need to be selfish and aware of what my head can do to me at a moment's notice.
But I'm still filled with reluctance to do it, that's the main problem. I love Ripon huge amounts, don't get me wrong, but I also love my flat, and for the first time in just about ever I'm actually settled and happy, so it's a big wrench. I suspect part of it is that's it's not my decision this time - I've been summoned and whether I want to or not, I have to go.
The angst, my dears, the ANGST!!!
Anyroadup, have sorted out that I can commute at least for a while, via bus. There was a bit of a problem initially because the first bus from Ripon doesn't get to York until 9.30 - obviously a bit late for work. But I've spoken to the big boss and he's fine with me starting then and just working through my lunch, so that's okay. The last bus back to Ripon goes at 5.40 - 10 minutes after we finish for the day - so a certain amount of belting about will occur, at least Monday - Thursday. As I am also the current office cleaner (a bit of extra pocket money to help pay for the bus) I'll stay back and do that on Friday night, so the belting about won't be quite so extreme.
Have spoken to Richard who works here and he's willing to help me move the stuff for beer money. Have also spoken to Smelly Jeremy who also works here and he'll help as well, plus his mate Hippy Steve has a van so hopefully that'll work. I only have to pay them all beer money plus Hippy Steve's petrol, so jolly good there. Have spoken to my friend Sylvia who has in turn spoken to her friend Alan who has agreed to take a lot of stuff to the tip for me, so all the ducks are slowly lining up.
The idea is that I'll start looking for somewhere beginning of March with a view to actually moving in at the start of April. As ever, it'll be an overlap which means that I'll end up paying a month's extra rent, but there's nothing I can do about that. I'd rather do that anyway and have the comfort of a cushion, as it were.
I've told mum that I'm going to be very picky about what I end up with, and I refuse to be rushed into it. If I get this wrong and I end up with awful neighbours then we all know how that can send me squiffy, and she totally appreciates that. In an ideal world I'd like a little 1 bed cottage or a house, and for what I pay in York I can just about afford one in Ripon. It's just a question of waiting for the right thing to come up.
I've also been to the benefits office in Harrogate and spoken to a very nice chap and checked what's going to happen if, when I move to Ripon, I end up getting a part time job so that I can spend more time with mum, so I know where I am with that as well. After all, if the point of this is that she wants me more on hand, then me working full time in York doesn't really provide that, does it? On the other hand I'm not rushing into that either. We've just been given our first pay rise in 5 years, plus a bit of an end of year bonus, and as I say, I do the cleaning once a week here, all of which add up. Plus, without being TOO big headed, I'm bloody good at this job and I'm valued, which is a nice thing. So that's another thing that needs to be thought out. This is possibly the biggest move I've ever actually made, as this time I'm having to be aware that mum wants it and want me closer, but at the same time I need to be selfish and aware of what my head can do to me at a moment's notice.
But I'm still filled with reluctance to do it, that's the main problem. I love Ripon huge amounts, don't get me wrong, but I also love my flat, and for the first time in just about ever I'm actually settled and happy, so it's a big wrench. I suspect part of it is that's it's not my decision this time - I've been summoned and whether I want to or not, I have to go.
The angst, my dears, the ANGST!!!
